Incommunicado, as an adjective or adverb, refers to a situation or a behaviour due to which communication with outsiders is not possible, for either voluntary or involuntary reasons, especially due to confinement or reclusiveness.

It seems there are a whole group of folk who have this issue. And they all have something I want. Information.

In the last 2 weeks I have ordered 2 items from Etsy. Most items from Etsy are handmade. Usually made to order. So, I would expect a response. You know, something along the lines of “Hey, I got your order. I’m taking your money and you are going to get something in this many days or weeks or months.” I don’t care how long it takes. I’m not picky that way, really. But I do want to  know you appreciate my money, my patronage. Just a quick note. I don’t need great detail. I just want to be acknowledged.

What we’ve got here is failure to communicate – Cool Hand Luke

At work, I send an email. It is greeted with stoney silence. This is frustrating as hell. If I could just get some kind of response. I don’t expect an immediate response.  But I can’t wait for weeks. I sent a question to someone 2 months ago. I still haven’t heard back. It’s insane. If you don’t know the answer say, “I don’t know.” Just anything. I’d be happy with “Fuck you. Forget you ever knew my name.” I just want something. Don’t leave me hanging.

There is really no reason for this. There are so many ways to communicate. There’s regular phone, email, cell phone, Instant Message, Skype, hell you can even use snail mail. Just please acknowledge me.

4 thoughts on “Incommunicado

  1. Oh yes – the scourge of the 21st century is exactly a failure to communicate – you could always cancel your order or delete them from your contact list if you don’t get some form of validation! There is also the scenario where people do reply and it’s not the answer to the question asked. I often think that it is because they are too busy trying to formulate a snappy answer or that they just love the sound of their own voices. Could be worse, you could be faced with a whole group of people who really aren’t interested in what you have to say, in which case the solution is not to say anything at all – they’ll come around pretty quickly and ask why YOU aren’t responding… Sorry for the rant – I’ve had a month of “malcommunicado”: thanks for visiting and feel free to get a reply from me anytime.

  2. Wow, I can really identify. Whenever anyone communicates with me in any way at all, even a text message first thing Sunday morning, I will ANSWER. I don’t understand how people just ignore each other. To my mind that’s really weird. And I’m like you, I’d rather they swear at me than ignore me. At least I’d know where I stand.

    I mean, I got this long text message the other day from some man who thought he was texting his ex-girlfriend. It was really sad and he talked about how much he still loved her and missed her. I didn’t even ignore *him* and he wasn’t writing to me! He wrote to me by mistake. I replied immediately and said, “I’m really sorry but I think you typed in the wrong number. My name isn’t so and so. Sorry to have read such a personal text message, but at least you can console yourself that I have no idea who you are.”

    He wrote back and thanked me so profusely for having been bothered to tell him – like that was a strange thing for me to do. Imagine how sad it would be if he wrote that heart-wrenching text message and thought his ex had read it and just ignored it, when actually she never even saw it.

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